How to Get Friendly with a Dog
Ever see a dog you want to befriend but who's not coming over to greet you? Whether it's someone else's pet or a dog you just got, not knowing how to make friends with them can be disheartening. It's even harder when you don't know if they're shy, sad, mean, anxious, or scared.
Luckily, there are many things you can do to make a dog like you or at least curious enough to meet you kindly. Here are our best tips on how to get friendly with a dog.
Approach a Friendly Dog
Do not force an interaction if the dog is scared or upset. Wait until they are calm. A dog who isn't friendly will not turn friendly based on another's kindness, at least not at first. Give them some time.
A friendly dog wags its tail and approaches to sniff you out. An unfriendly dog will look you straight in the eye, bark, crouch, and growl. They should not be approached or engaged with.
Move Slowly to Indicate You Are Not a Threat
Moving quickly toward a dog can be scary and threatening for some. Move slowly. Approach a few steps and then wait to see if the dog is interested in you proceeding further.
Crouch Down to Get on the Dog's Level
To further distinguish you from a threat, crouch down. Let the dog sniff your hand. Always keep your palms up and ensure your hand is lower than the dog's head so that it is evident to the dog and not a surprise.
Ensure They Are Fed and Hydrated
While you don't have any say in it if it's not your dog, if it is, make sure it is given the proper amount of dog food and water throughout the day. A lack of food will make any animal or person grumpy and less friendly. Stock up on freeze dried dog food in your house.
Let the Dog Make the First Move
Give a dog lots of space. Please do not speak to or touch a dog before it makes the first move. Look at its body language. There should be clear signs that it is interested in interacting with you.
After They Sniff, Gently Pet Them
After the dog sniffs you, they may allow gentle petting. Use a soothing voice as you do. Avoid petting them directly on the top of their heads, as some dogs find this aggressive. Keep your hands level with the dog's head.
If They Nudge, Stop
Sometimes, a dog will nudge you with their nose to stop what you're doing. If they nudge or back away, growl, or bark, these are all signs to stop doing what you're doing and give them space.
Avoid Intimidating Gestures
You can inadvertently scare a dog if you stare them directly in the eye, adopt an intimidating posture, or make gestures that indicate aggression. Communicate calmly and ensure they can always see your hands until they trust you.
Bond with a Dog Through Nearness
The best way to build trust with a dog is to let them near you, such as sitting on a couch or lying beside you. Once they are more comfortable, consider taking them for a walk. Time spent together and interaction are how dogs can bond with their human counterparts.
Praise Positive Behaviour
If a dog respects your authority and sees you as a pack leader, this will strengthen your bond. Dogs also respond best to positive reinforcement rather than punishment, so praise for positive behaviour and treats when necessary are offered.
Respond to Your Dog's Boundaries
Even when things are going well, a dog may still negatively react to something. Always respect their boundaries. Do not engage in behaviours that distress a dog and reduce stressors where you can.
Happy Dogs Are Easier to Meet
If you notice things that bother a dog – such as they don't like their dog food, loud noises, or certain behaviours you do – cease what you're doing or remove the negative. A happy dog is more likely to want to be friendly with you than a dog that is stressed or unable to remain at ease.
Have Patience with a Dog
A dog will still misbehave or have trust issues early on. Dogs take some time to learn boundaries. Always remain calm, and do not yell or strike a dog. This will only cause a dog to fear you, and when you're trying to stay friendly, this isn't what you want.